International Feng Shui Conference, Part I

My father always told me, “time speeds up as you get older,” and as a little girl I certainly doubted this strange idea of time and space. It seemed time was always against me as it dragged on and on, especially on hot summer days when I would beg my mother to take me swimming. “Pretty soon,” was the answer, and what does “pretty soon” mean anyway? What did pretty have to do with soon? They didn’t seem related at all.

PdeersFun time always went so fast, and it felt like the wind was at my back pushing me quickly ahead and my feet were racing forward running, jumping, climbing, swimming or dancing in the latest recital. I loved anything with a motor or wheels, and at 11 years old got into a lot of trouble when I drove my daddy’s two-ton, five-gear, flatbed truck through his new ranch-style pine fence. I failed to understand his stern reaction about the “accident” to my face, but he laughed like crazy when he told his friends.

A few weeks later I was learning to shift gears in my brother’s 1948 Chevy. I backed the jalopy to the end of the driveway slowly, hoping my father’s nap would continue, then slid forward in the car seat as far as possible, stretching my left foot and placing it on the clutch, then placing my right toe on the gas and with a rhythm only known to those who have driven stick-shift vehicles, I lunged forward in a shaky manner and the car zoomed forward. So energized by the thrill of driving the 200-yard race course, I didn’t notice my father at the front door in, God forbid, his boxer shorts underwear. When my Dad was really angry, proper attire wasn’t an issue and living out in the pre-suburbs (before we had neighbors) was to his advantage.

During my early youth, if I wasn’t to be found on the roof, I was setting up a tea party in my brother’s tree house or hanging upside down in the neighbor’s backyard swing set. Setting still wasn’t an option, and I’m sure I’m now getting a payback from my early antics via my grandchildren, as both of my little ones have now acquired riding lawn mowers to “play on,” thanks to my husband!

Every time I leave home for a Feng Shui event, they plot against Grandma, with Grandpa at the helm. The two innocent lawn mowers had no motors when I left for the International Feng Shui Conference, and I assumed that is the way they would stay for a couple of years. The little demon motorless things were only “for play,” I assumed, and as I always advise my clients NEVER ASSUME, as I have learned with TIME, I ignored my own advice. Other people have other agendas and can exert free will when other people are out of sight. Other people (my husband) got on eBay and found motors for the old, but fun, shells of lawn mowers and installed then into the motionless toys. Now my six-year-old is driving all over our four lots. Payback is sweet. Leave home and control leaves with you.

Learning the energies of your family can be enlightening and life changing. Attending the recent Conference in San Luis Obispo for 6 days was a delight. Presented by Roger Green, internationally known for his seven schools of Wind and Water or Feng Shui throughout the world, he is one of the top authorities on the Art of Placement. His teaching abilities and experience into the world of Compass School mysteries is extensive. Translating the Chinese Lo P`an Compass into English over 20 years ago has been the catalyst of transformation for the Western world in understanding Chi or unseen energies which flow into every space.

I had made contact with Roger several months ago to ask him if I could present my new Feng Shui art series called The Five Elements. He was intrigued by the idea, and I promised I wouldn’t embarrass him with the quality of my paintings. I figured I would have six months of leisure time to produce the work. And then life moved rapidly forward as I went to China with Master Lin Yun’s group for three weeks, to see where Feng Shui began. Consultations and speaking engagements greeted my return and all of a sudden, TIME was flying by quickly and I could see myself “in a world of hurt,” as my husband likes to say.

I warned everyone in the family to not talk to me or ask me for food for two weeks, but I had forgotten my daughter from the Bay Area was coming for a birthday invitation the coming week, oops! My daughter and I played for another week, sailing on a charter boat with a garden group to Friday Harbor to Pelindaba Lavender Farm (, a beautiful trip on my friend’s charter boats called the Paracletes ( with Barbara Blossom Ashmun, weekly columnist for The Better Homes and Garden magazine. What fun! Barbara is a delight, very approachable and was very interested about Feng Shui and the shapes of gardens which enhance the outdoor living spaces. We talked the afternoon away as the chartered boat sailed through the San Juan Islands and home to the Mainland of Washington State.

The last week was approaching, and I began to go a little wild looking at the blank canvas and the deadline one week away. My daughter, who had turned into a lovely woman many years ago, when TIME still seemed forever, reassured me that I would pull “it” off as always, which gave me new confidence, then turned and waved a goodbye she boarded the shuttle back to the airport. As a child and a teenager, she spent many hours waiting for me to finish teaching art classes and was usually bored and mad as my classes dragged on, according to her analysis.

The countdown was now at five days, and I became totally serious as I positioned the first 48 x 48 canvas on the art easel. I put a new CD into the player and listened as my new music tape from Gaia filled the house with balancing music and I began to visualize the Element of Wood. I looked out my west window at the 200-foot cypress trees and put the brush to the canvas. Five Elements in five days, may the Gods be with me. (Continued next week – Time, the five Elements, and purpose).

Asilomar II

Bedrooms have a life of their own. From childhood homes to your present house, every structure has had an impression on your life.

There are feng shui rules that apply to children’s bedrooms as well as the partners who discipline the household.

Recently I traveled to southern California to again speak for the Santa Clara Reading Council convention. They had again invited me to speak to the educational systems of this county on feng shui. This was my third yearly trek to Pacific Grove, California. The famous facility of Asilomar is located on the Monterey coastline of the Pacific Ocean

Schoolteachers, superintendents, principles and other speakers gather to learn the newest skills to bring their students the best available information. 4000 of these dedicated teachers fill the classrooms and lodges for three full days. Feng shui was a new concept in the arrangement of the classroom. Putting the teacher in a power position and the students in the productive guas according to their interests. The ancient Chinese bagua or eight-sided mathematically equal grid fits over the classroom giving support to the teacher as well as the students.

My one-hour teaching assignment was on the subject of classroom organization for harmony and balance. The room limit was 40 people; 75+ people filled the room. Many younger teachers sat on the floor while 20 latecomers stood for the session.

Wealth_SymbolTo my amusement the subject of the lecture, swiftly shifted to partnerships, relationships, marriages, divorces and affairs. The questions quickly showed me that almost everyone is having a difficult time with their partner. It’s called a “realignment”. Every so many years we must shift or be shifted. It is a temporary chaos, which is affecting many couples. Use feng shui for relief. Try not to blame and hold major decisions until the dust settles. September 11th is still rumbling throughout the nation and reflecting in our personal lives.

Here is one example of many e-mails I have received lately.

Dear Caroline,

My life is falling apart. Husband has left me for a younger woman but wants to come home. I have a back injury and cannot work. I have applied for SSI and will know soon if I get it. I watch my granddaughter and make about $35 a week. I am trying to improve my home from your articles, as I have no money for a consult or a book. I made a partnership corner in the kitchen, but wonder if I should move my bedroom back upstairs over the kitchen. That bedroom is a guest room done in blue and mauve and it has many “pairs” in the décor. My bedroom is now in the left front corner of the house. I could then put the living room there, and the now living/dining room would just be dining room. I could even move the front door to the left of the double window on the south wall. This would make it face the street. I have added some lilacs to the bath and also some bright lavender towels. I also put garland of blue and purple flowers over the windows and bathtub. The walls are cream and the floors are forest green. I put a chunk of amethyst crystal and a string of pearls on the counter with the lilacs. If I could afford to, I would have you do my whole house!! Thank you for any help you may be able to give me.

Your dilemma sounds serious. My questions to you would be:

  • How long have you lived in this house?
  • Who lived there before you?
  • What house were you living in when the chaos began?
  • How long have you been married?
  • What is the underlying problem?
  • Family, friends, business partners.
  • Why did you get married?
  • What are you ages?
  • How many children?
  • First husband?

Patterns are continually repeated until we get the point. There are four control methods we use in life: intimidator, interrogator, poor me and aloof. I have used all of them in my 41-year marriage! The universe or God talks to us through the body. I only recommend and keep books that have changed my life. One is “Heal Your Body” by Louise Hay. The vertebra in the back are listed and each one corresponds to a message the body is sending the brain. How long did I want to suffer? The back relates to the need to forgive past issues. I used the corresponding affirmation for healing, repeating the words again and again as they penetrated my body, mind and soul until I released the issue. I walked four miles a day for five years as I wanted to heal my body and move forward in life.

Madonna_and_ChildAs a consultant, three related components of mind, body and spirit. All must be examined to help the client.

The first step could be getting rid of 27 things in 9 days. The energy of this number promotes change. What possessions are you holding onto just because? Is the house cluttered? This is the first clue to the puzzle of stagnant chi.

Your colors and changes sound terrific. I would reclaim the partnership bedroom. Do you want your husband back? I always advise working toward your dream. This is when marriages fall apart, when one or both of the partners feel they have been denied their passion and purpose. It’s never about you — it’s about the other one’s struggle to find their destiny. It’s a natural desire to reach your potential.

Resentment festers and causes deep regret. Illness results. To change relationships, get a new mattress. The old one contains emotional and physical DNA of the last relationship. If you believe you will fail, you will. Pink is the color of love. Yellow is for healing. Use these colors in clothing for yourself and the center of the house. Please continue to educate yourself on feng shui and contact me if you have more questions.

Feng shui and herbal suggestions are suggestions only. Consult a qualified medical doctor for medical treatment.